“I certainly don’t consider Butch women to be masculine or manly in any way. Butch women are women and my sisters. They are not ‘like men’. The reason Butches are seen as ‘masculine’, is because our society leaves no room for the non-performance of femininity in women. When women refuse to perform femininity, they are labelled masculine because we don’t have a word for non-performance. There is the word ‘androgynous’ but I don’t think it’s applicable in the case of Butch women, or indeed any woman, because androgynous means, “having the characteristics or nature of both male and female.” Butches only have the characteristics and nature of females. Because they are female.”—Ann Tagonist (via adayinthelesbianlife)
“Please understand that I can’t spend all of my energy trying to get well. With a short-term illness like the flu, you can afford to put life on hold for a week or two while you get well. But part of having a chronic illness is coming to the realization that you have to spend some energy on having a life now. This doesn’t mean I’m not trying to get better. It doesn’t mean I’ve given up. It’s just how life is when you’re dealing with a chronic illness.”—This is wifey’s life and I would trade anything to help heal her.